How To Keep A Guy Interested
Do you know how to get them but don’t know how to keep them?
We’ve all heard the advice: in order to keep a guy interested, you need to play hard to get, be aloof, become interested in his hobbies, etc. That may possibly work if you simply want a boyfriend, but if you want the right boyfriend, then that’s the wrong approach. Why would you want to be with a guy who wants to date someone who plays games and is aloof? Why would you want a boyfriend who isn’t looking for someone just like you? If you’re trying to attract him by being someone else, then is he really the right person for you? Dating is about being honest, maintaining balance in your life, loving yourself first, and mutual respect. If you want to keep a guy interested, these things are a must.
Keep a guy by being yourself from the very beginning
We all want to put our best foot forward at the beginning. But it’s very important to be authentic and show your date who you are. Long-term relationships are a part of real life, and you can’t fake it forever. While it’s okay to hold back on some personal things in the beginning, don’t be dishonest. They’re going to find out eventually, so being honest about yourself will always work in your favor.
What does that mean? Don’t pretend you’ll sit anywhere in a restaurant for the first three months and then explain that you only really like a corner table. Don’t pretend that you enjoy exploring the entire city when the truth is that you prefer never to go above 23rd Street. And don’t tell a man that you love kids and are excited to meet his children one day but then later refuse to spend any time with his family.
Keep a guy by maintaining balance in your life
I’m sure you’ve met this woman before, or maybe she is you. She’s the type of person who puts her friendships aside each time she has a new love interest. She’s the type of person who will only make tentative plans with friends or family because her boyfriend may decide he wants to see her that night. She’s the type of person who cancels her previous plans when her new boyfriend calls her at the last minute to see if she’d like to have dinner. She’s the type of person who gets jealous of her boyfriend if he spends too much time with his friends. Don’t be that person. You should never give up everything for a guy you just began dating… actually, you should never give up everything for a guy!
It’s very important to maintain the life you had before you met him. It can be helpful to view your world as a pie. One slice of your “world pie” is your friends, another slice is your family, another is your work, there should be a slice just for you, you can have a slice for your pet if you have one, and then the last slice is your dating life. Those slices should remain close to the same proportions that they were when you first met your new boyfriend. Don’t squeeze those four or five slices into one-quarter of the pie and give him the remaining three quarters. Believe it or not, men like women who are balanced and not too needy. In fact, that can be very intriguing.
Keep a guy by insisting on mutual respect
You can’t expect someone else to respect you or fall in love with you if you don’t love and respect yourself. How do you do that? You make sure he respects you and your time, as well as the things that are meaningful in your life. You introduce him to your friends and family when you’re ready. And, if you have plans with someone else, you keep them. If you’re busy, he should respect that. And the same holds true regarding your respect for him and his boundaries. When you feel secure in the relationship and trust one another, your life together will feel balanced and wonderful.
Remember that slice of pie that’s just for you? That slice is extremely important. It’s the part of your life that allows you time to decompress, practice self-care, and do whatever it is that makes you happy. You have to live your life. When you love and take care of yourself, the right guy will respect that and stick around. And that’s the guy you want as your boyfriend.