Tango Magazine – Strike a Match

LISA RONIS IS SITTING IN A COFFEE SHOP With her French hound. stell..3, Leaving a sparkling rille.I4Sagt`:”i’ve found the man for you. I is. name is John. He’s hilarious. sexy. and I’ve given him your number. Let’s chat!”

For most people this would he a social call, but Ronis is hard at work. She is a professional matchmaker. a member of a booming industry that exists nationwide. There are over L000 private matchmakers in the United States ‘rim*. according to Ma rketdata Enterprises. a research group in Florida. And there’s even a school to train them: The Mats h making institute in New ‘York City molds novice meddlers into professional love brokers. “Matchmaking is a hot profession right now.” says Lisa Cla mpit I, the institute’s cofounder and executive director. -It’s the next real estate! Our class size has tripled in the past three years.-

She attributes this growth to the rise of the Internet. “The online dating industry has mainstreamed the idea of having a third parry faciiitateyourlove Ctampitt exp ]ains_ “But there’s a lot of
misinformation online. :N. larried peopie pretend to be single. People lie about their age. height. weight. That’s where a matchmaker comes in; they prescreen your date before you even ger there.-

“It’s all about efficiency,” says Rachel Greenwald, a professional matchmaker in Colorado. “If, say, you’re a busy executive, a third party setup saves you the time it takes to slog through all the dating arenas—spending hours at a crowded party only to go home having met no one.”

It may not be as strange as it sounds to outsource your love life. As Janis Spindel, a New York City matchmaker, puts it, “It’s perfectly acceptable to hire professionals to do something better than you could do it yourself—even find a mate.”

Beyond this logical appeal, there’s an emotional pull: It’s comforting to think that someone else can guide you through a precarious patch of life with relative ease. If you are someone who is too shy or too busy to “get out there”—or, worse, realizes that being “out there” usually ends in disappointment and heartache—having a pro in your court can force you to make better choices. “A good matchmaker can help you evaluate your past relationships and break your bad habits,” says Ronis. “I’ve had clients who have said, ‘She’s not for me; she’s not pretty enough,’ or ‘He’s not for me, he’s not funny.’ I make them go on a second date and—boom!—they’re
married with two kids.”

When matchmaking succeeds, all parties win: The client snags a life partner, the matchmaker a handbag of cash. Pricing structures vary, but most include an initial consultation fee, a dating package price, and a marriage bonus. (Bonuses can be cash, or even a car or a trip.) The matchmakers
approached for this story charge anywhere from 57,500 to Stoo,000 for packages ranging from eight dates to a year of service.

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